These is perhaps no greater test of motherly instincts than a Christmas church service packed with infants, middle schoolers, and children of every age in between. I gazed around the church during an especially uninspiring sermon, observing my fellow parishioners as they kindly smiled at a squirmy four month or pulled faces at a two year old.
That many kids in one place should have, at least according to many of my peers, caused at least *some* reaction from me.
Nothing. Not even a twitch of an ovary.
While my college roommate is pregnant with her fifth (FIFTH!!!) child and my unmarried colleagues curse their ticking biological clocks (can we please talk about something else at lunch?), I'm unconcerned. I'm not yet 30. Should I be feeling the urge to reproduce?
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Hmm, less than 30? I don't think you need to be worried. Plus, other people's children are not always that cute anyway!
i had no real desire to have kids (i don't have any now) until after 30. even then it was just a passing thought that they might not be the end of the world til last year. i wouldn't worry, unless the sight of a wee one cause unnatural twitching and the immediate desire to flee the locale :)
No. But don't wait too long as it gets harder the older you get.
Other people's kids never gave me the twitch either. It was on a lazy Sunday morning, laying in Hubby's arms, that I found myself dreaming of having a little one that was just ours. I don't think it had anything to do with age either, just a stage in the relationship.
Or, maybe you need to step away from the dog poo first? ;P
I can see other kids, think they are cute, and still have NO desire to have one of my own. Of course, the whole long distance marriage thing would prevent it anyway... but I am certainly not counting down until we live together on account of wanting to reproduce. Most days, I think I'd be perfectly content never having children at all!
Agree with Aurora. The thing is that some people only know retrospectively that they actually wanted kids only after they have them. And timing is important if you want more than one. I was lucky that I did not wait for too long.
I agree that the longer you wait the harder it gets, but disagree that a person should have a child earlier than they are ready for that reason only.
Don't feel bad about not twitching for other children.
I'm not twitching either. And I'm a few years older than you. I am very, very tired of people (why is it usually men?) telling me I WILL want to have children, I WILL wake up one day and suddenly the timer will go off and BANG I will decide I want this. I want to punch people when they speak to me this way, as if they know anything about me at all. I am tempted to say something nasty to them, but I can't come up with the perfect comeback.
Ms. PhD., how about, "you will one day want to have a vasectomy."
I'm also in the not-yet-30 crowd. There was a period of about two weeks during my first year of grad school that I had an inkling to have a kid. I ignored it b/c (1) I had just started grad school, (2) I'd been married less than 6 months, and (3) we could not afford a kid.
I haven't had a twitch since. Not even when I was playing with my unbelievably cute 1-y.o. niece at Christmas.
I'm with EtBr - I can appreciate other people's kids without wanting my own.
We stayed with one of my sisters-in-law over Christmas. Her two boys are 8 and 10, and mostly great. But as they whined and bickered at the end of a very long day, I turned to my husband and said "so, which one of us is getting their tubes tied?"
(p.s. I'm 32 and am convinced that some of us just don't have those instincts).
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